Relationships are never perfect and are a constant work in progress. Having said that a relationship should be growing, which means that when you look back at arguments or little spats, you should be able to see how you both handled it and if you both grew from the experience.
Unfortunately often times because of the emotions involved we are sometime caught up in the now that we can’t see the forest for the trees, so to speak.
It’s important to remember that our significant others are not mind readers and often they need us to communicate what we are thinking or feeling, rather than just getting angry and snapping at them.
If you’re finding that your girlfriend is constantly mad at you, or mean to you, it might be worth taking a step back and trying to figure out why.
Communication
In relationships communication is very important and often arguments can be avoided if we just communicate with our partners what we are thinking or feeling. If your girlfriend is constantly mean to you, it might be because she feels like you’re not listening to her, or that you don’t care about her feelings.
Try sitting down with her and having a heart-to-heart conversation about how you’re both feeling in the relationship. If she feels like she can’t express her feelings to you, it might be causing her to lash out.
Listening is just as important as talking in a relationship. Make sure that you’re really hearing what she’s saying and try to see things from her perspective. Oftentimes, we can get so caught up in our own point of view that we don’t take the time to see things from our partner’s.
Respect
Another important thing in any relationship is respect. If your girlfriend feels like you’re not respecting her, it can lead to a lot of tension and resentment.
Respect goes both ways in a relationship. It’s important to respect your girlfriend’s wishes and boundaries, as well as her opinions and feelings. Likewise, she should be respecting you and your wishes, too.
If you’re not sure where the line is between healthy respect and disrespect, it is important to remember that the two of you are separate individuals. Just because you might not agree with everything she says or does, that doesn’t mean you have to be disrespectful.
Compromise
Pick your battles. In every relationship there will be times when you don’t see eye to eye. Just remember that you’re not always going to agree on everything and that’s okay.
Are you both willing to compromise and meet in the middle? If your girlfriend is constantly demanding her way, then this is not healthy for the relationship in the long run because it will only lead to resentment.
However, if you’re both willing to compromise then this can be a very healthy sign for the future of your relationship.
Trust
Trust is another key ingredient in any relationship. If your girlfriend doesn’t trust you, it can lead to a lot of problems.
If she feels like you’re constantly breaking her trust, whether it’s through lying or cheating, then this is going to cause a lot of tension.
Building trust takes time and it’s important to be patient. If you’re both willing to work on it, then trust can be rebuilt.
A woman will sometimes lash out because they are frustrated or angry so if there is something you are doing that is causing her to be mean, it might be helpful to try to address the issue.
Understanding possible reasons is the first step to trying to solve the problem. If you can identify why your girlfriend is being mean to you, it will be much easier to try to fix the issue.
If however it has nothing to do with what you are doing then it could be her. She could be the one with the problem and in which case you might have to decide if the relationship is worth continuing especially after communicating with her and trying to work things out.
Breakups Are Not Always A Bad Thing
Sometimes the best thing you can do for a relationship that isn’t working is to breakup with the other person. This will give both of you the time to reflect on the relationship and what went wrong.
If you decide to get back together, you can use this time apart to work on the issues that were causing problems in the first place.
A breakup can be hard, but sometimes it’s for the best. If your girlfriend is constantly mean to you and nothing you do seems to make a difference, then it might be time to consider breaking up.
It’s not always easy to make this decision, but sometimes it’s the best thing for both of you in the long run.
Take Some Time For Yourself
Whenever a relationship ends, take sometime to reflect and grow as a person. This break will allow you to focus on your own life and happiness.
It’s easy to get caught up in a relationship and forget about your own needs. So, this break is the perfect time to focus on you and what makes you happy.
Conclusion
No one deserves to be in a relationship where they are constantly mistreated. We often show people how they can treat us by accepting poor treatment so don’t.
