Is It Normal For My Boyfriend To Hit Me


Being hit by your boyfriend is physical abuse, and it’s not normal or acceptable under any circumstances. If you’re being hit by your boyfriend, you need to get out of the relationship.

Its Starts Slowly and Gradually

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Couple Arguing Photo by Afif Ramdhasuma on Unsplash

Abuse Just like anything else , has a spectrum of severity and often develops over time.

On one end, you have things like name-calling and verbal put-downs, and on the other end you have more severe things like hitting, choking, or sexual abuse.

In most cases, it starts with something small and gradually gets worse and more frequent over time.

Your boyfriend might start by pushing you during an argument or putting his hands on you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.

He might start calling you names or making degrading comments about your appearance.

Verbal abuse can be just as harmful as physical abuse, and it’s often a precursor to more severe forms of abuse.

If you’re being verbally abused by your boyfriend, consider getting out of the relationship before it escalates.

Playing The Victim

He Might Make Excuses or Blame You like saying:

”It’s not his fault, he didn’t mean it, he was just really stressed out.”

If you accept these excuses then keep in mind the fact that it will only get worse for you.

Should I Leave My Boyfriend If He Hits Me One Time?

Abusive relationships don’t start with abuse, they usually start as intense and passionate love affairs with people who seem absolutely perfect.

So in the beginning its not often easy to tell if the relationship will become abusive.

A possessive and controlling behaviour therefore might not be seen early in the relationship and might only merge and intensify as the relationship grows.

Many women find themselves in a situation where they have a great man who treats them good and have been with for years or even months and then for whatever reason he hits you.

They are then caught in a dilemma because they love him but they also know that this behaviour is not right.

The truth is that if your boyfriend hits you once, it’s highly likely that he will hit you again.

Abusive relationships usually involve a cycle of violence, where the abuse gets worse and more frequent over time.

Your boyfriend should respect you enough never to put his hands on you

If he hits you once, it’s highly likely that he will hit you again and if he ever hits you three times then be sure that he will always hits you so don’t wait for that to happen.

Setting Boundaries

In relationships, its important to set boundaries with your partner in order to maintain a healthy and respectful relationship.

If you’re being hit by your boyfriend, it’s important to set a boundary with him that physical violence is not acceptable under any circumstances.

You might say something like, “I’m not going to tolerate being hit by you or anyone else and if you ever hit me again, I’m leaving.”

If he doesn’t respect your boundary, then it’s important to follow through and leave the relationship.

Your Boyfriend Should Never Try To Control You

No one not even your boyfriend should try to control you as an adult you are past that stage in your life.

He should never try to control who you see, what you wear, or where you go.

If you find yourself in a situation where your boyfriend is that controlling to a point he has resulted in hitting you which is physical abuse then its time you consider leaving that relationship.

In Any Disagreement A Boyfriend Should Walk Away Rather Than Hit You

In any disagreements, it is better to walk away and calm down before talking about the issue at hand.

You should never have to worry about your safety when you’re arguing with your boyfriend.

If he ever hits you during an argument, it’s a sign that he’s not capable of resolving conflict in a healthy way and it’s time to leave the relationship.

What If You Cheated On Him?

If you cheated on him he should walk away from the relationship rather than hit you. Violence not the answer and will only result in more problems in the form of abuse.

A man who truly loves you will never put his hands on you no matter what you do.

There are many other ways to deal with the situation besides hitting you.

So, if your boyfriend hits you, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t respect you and it’s time to leave the relationship.


In relationships, communication is key in order to maintain a healthy and respectful relationship.

If you’re being hit by your boyfriend, then it could mean that he doesn’t have the ability to communicate effectively.

It’s important to be able to communicate with your partner about your feelings, needs, and wants in order to maintain a healthy relationship by the time he is hitting you its probably too late for communication.

Don’t Reward Bad Behaviour

Your boyfriend hitting you might be because he doesn’t know how to communicate, has anger issues, control issues or is hoping to get a certain response from you.

Whatever the reason, it’s important not to reward bad behaviour by staying in the relationship.

If you stay, then you’re essentially telling him that it’s okay to hit you and that’s not the message you want to send.

It’s important to leave the relationship in order to send a clear message that physical violence is not acceptable.

Even if you intend on giving him a second chance be sure to cut off all communication until he seeks help for his anger issues because if he is hitting you now chances are he will hit you again.

So breakup with him and give him time to reflect on what he did and when you give him time make sure its considerable time like weeks so he can reflect on what he did and how it made you feel.

If he comes back and wants to try again make sure you are clear that you will not give him another chance if he ever puts his hands on you and be sure yo follow through with that.

Abusive relationships usually involve a cycle of violence

The decision to leave an abusive relationship is never easy, but it’s important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and that you deserve to be in a safe and healthy relationship.

Early Warning Signs Of An Abusive Relationship

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A couple In A Relationship

Most often than not abusive relationships start off great in the beginning which is what sucks people in and by the time they realize its an abusive relationship its too late.

There are however early warning signs that you can be on the lookout for:

-Your partner is extremely jealous or possessive

-Your partner puts you down or criticizes you

-Your partner is overly controlling

-Your partner threatens you or tries to scare you

-Your partner hits, kicks, or pushes you

-Your partner forces you to have sex

-Your partner threatens to hurt you or themselves

If you notice any of these early warning signs in your relationship, it’s important to get out before it becomes an abusive relationship.

Getting Help

If you’re in an abusive relationship, it’s important to get help. There are many resources available to help you get out of the situation and keep yourself safe.

Gerald Omondi
Gerald Omondi
As a writer, I have a passion for exploring a variety of topics. When I'm not putting pen to paper, I enjoy traveling and spending time with my family. As a husband and father, I understand the importance of balance and finding time for the things I love. Whether I'm delving into new subjects or spending quality time with my loved ones.


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