When a wife becomes pregnant, her body begins to change in a multitude of ways. While the changes are exciting and welcomed by the expecting mother, they can also affect her relationship with her husband. Some men may experience less attraction toward their pregnant wives due to their changing shape and size. This is because men are more visually stimulated than women, and their attraction to a partner is linked to physical appearance.
It’s important for a wife to understand that her husband’s reaction is not about her or the pregnancy, but rather his own personal preferences and how he deals with change. For example, men may feel uncomfortable around large breasts or bellies, or may just be more comfortable with their partner looking a certain way.
It is also possible that the decrease in intimacy could be connected to fear or anxiety of hurting the unborn baby. Even though there is no scientific evidence suggesting intercourse during pregnancy can harm the baby, many men still worry about it and feel guilty for wanting to engage in sexual activities.
It is normal for a couple to experience changes in their intimate relationship during pregnancy. But the key is communication and understanding. You as a wife should talk openly with your husband and try to understand his thoughts and feelings without judgement.
A More Biological Reason
Although men being visually stimulated may be a factor, there could also be a biological reason as to why some men’s desire for intimacy decreases during their partner’s pregnancy. It is believed that once a man has procreated, his brain sends signals to reduce his urge for intimacy as it no longer serves a purpose in terms of having more babies.
Also the brain might be registering the fact that because you are pregnant you can’t get pregnant again and because intimacy often takes a lot of energy it could be trying to conserve energy for a situation where pregnancy is more likely.
Another reason could be explained by research published in the American Journal of Human Biology, found that expectant fathers experience drops in testosterone — the hormone most closely associated with male sex drive.
So in conclusion, understanding the possible reasons why your husband’s desire for intimacy decreases during your pregnancy, may help to open up a dialogue between you and your husband that can lead to solutions that works for both of you.
It is important to remember that this decrease in intimacy is normal and should not be seen as a sign of any relationship issue. With open communication and understanding, couples can work through this natural change in the intimate dynamic during pregnancy.
It is also important to note that physical intimacy does not have to be lost entirely during a wife’s pregnancy. Even though intercourse might not be possible, there are other ways to stay close and have intimate moments such as cuddling, holding hands, massages and even just talking about your feelings or doing something fun together.
These activities can be just as meaningful as sexual intimacy during this time of life changes so talk to your husband on how he can still make you feel loved.
Be sure to express your needs and be open minded and willing to try different activities that help you both stay connected.
By employing these strategies, you as a wife can create an even stronger bond with your husband during your pregnancy, making it a truly special time for the whole family.
Lastly, it is important to remember to give yourselves grace. Pregnancy is a special but also exhausting journey and it can be difficult even with the perfect communication, so be sure to take care of yourself and your relationship.
The most important thing for couples during pregnancy is that they remain connected and are able to talk openly about their needs and concerns. When couples are able to do this, it helps create a more intimate connection and can help them both get through the changes pregnancy brings.
So continue to keep the lines of communication open with your husband and remain understanding as you navigate through these changes together. With time and patience, you and your partner will be able to enjoy the intimacy that can come with pregnancy.