As a wife it can be frustrating when your husband prioritizes everyone else around you or his relatives before you. It’s often assumed that husbands should put their wives first but it doesn’t always work out that way. You might feel like you are being taken for granted or not appreciated as much as other members of his extended or immediate family.
It can also be just as bad if he puts his friends before you. This can be especially hurtful if he is prioritizing his friends over family obligations or neglecting your relationship in order to accommodate social activities with them.
It’s important for couples to think about how their choices affect their relationship and the roles they play in each other’s lives.
It is even more important to discuss your relationship expectations before getting into a marriage so that both partners are aware of the roles and responsibilities they are expected to fulfill. This will help avoid any misunderstandings or hurt feelings in the future.
In the event that this was not discussed earlier and you find yourself in this situation, it is important to remember that communication is key. Talk to your husband about how you feel and the kind of relationship you’d like to have. Be open and honest with him about your expectations and listen to what he has to say as well.
If he truly cares about you, he will be understanding and willing to make changes or compromise if necessary. If your relationship is a priority for him, then he will be more likely to put you first and make sure his decisions are in line with your relationship.
The way you communicate how you feel is just as important as the feelings themselves. Make sure to be kind and supportive in your discussions, knowing that everyone’s opinion matters and that it is possible to come to a mutually beneficial solution. Doing this will help strengthen your relationship and create mutual respect between the two of you.
Don’t Be Emotional
It is easy to become emotional when your feelings are being disregarded or hurt, but it’s also important to stay calm and rational in order to get your point across. Reacting in anger will only make matters worse, as your husband will feel attacked and may not be willing to listen. Instead, focus on communicating your feelings to him and understanding his point of view and finding a solution that works for both of you.
Seek To Understand Before Being Understood
No one likes to be put in a situation where they have to choose between their spouse and the people they care about. That’s why it is important to approach the matter careful and not make your husband feel attacked.
When we feel attacked we get defensive and are not able to think clearly or be receptive to the other person’s viewpoint. If he feels attacked he will not hear you as he will be defending himself.
A good approach would be to state your frustrations as a question rather than as a statement.
For example instead of saying “Babe You Always Put Everyone Else Before Me”
You Could instead ask “Babe Why Do You Always Put Everyone Else Before Me?”
An even better would be ” Babe when you did (state the thing he did) for (State the person) and yet I needed (State What You Needed) It makes me feel that you put other people before me.
Once you have communicated your frustrations then give him a chance to explain himself.
Be Open To Your Husband’s Explanation
No one should be expected to put one person before all else, and it is possible that your husband may have a valid explanation for his actions.
He might be feeling overwhelmed and unable to manage all of his responsibilities or feel pressure from outside influences.
Be open to listening to your husband’s explanation and don’t expect him to change his behavior overnight. If you want lasting changes in the relationship, you must be willing to work together and actively engage in solving the problem.
If you are clear in your communication and don’t sound like you are attacking him you are more likely to find a solution that works for both of you.
It is important to remember that relationships are a two way street and it takes communication and compromise from both partners to make them work. If you and your partner can come together and discuss your feelings openly and honestly, then you should be able to find a mutually beneficial solution.
It is also important to remember that your feelings matter, and it is perfectly valid to want to be put first in your relationship. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings and ask for what you need. Doing so will help ensure that both of you are happy and that your relationship is in a healthy and balanced place.
It may be difficult to ask for what you need, but doing so will ultimately benefit your relationship in the long run. With honest, open communication and a willingness to compromise, you can create a relationship where each partner is respected and both of your needs are met.
Remember that marriage is a partnership and it is essential for both of you to be on the same page. If you are willing to listen and understand your husband’s point of view, as well as express your own, then you can both reach a satisfying and happy resolution.