We all have caught ourselves lash out in moments of hurt and insecurity. But calling someone fat is a big deal, even if you don’t mean it.
Words can build or destroy, and unfortunately in this case, your husband’s words were used to hurt.
We all have our own insecurities we battle and it can be very hurtful if when the people we love add to it. Calling someone fat can be a reminder of all the negative self-talk we give ourselves every day, and how hard it is to break free from it. It can also be a reminder of the people who have called us fat in the past, and the pain they’ve caused us.
It might be hard for you to accept, but his comment was about him — not you. It is likely that he has some issues he needs to work through and his words were a reflection of that.
Your husband calling you fat, it can be incredibly hurtful. You may feel like you are not good enough in his eyes or that he doesn’t love you anymore. It is important to recognize that this negative language and behavior should never be tolerated in a relationship.
Even if he thought you were fat there are better ways to communicate that to someone you care about and the process of losing weight should be a shared journey if its something you have chosen to embark on.
The first step to take is to open up a dialogue with your husband about why he said what he did. Ask him if there is something going on behind the scenes that caused him to lash out at you in such an unacceptable way. This can help both of you gain clarity on the situation and begin working towards resolving any issues at hand.
It’s also important for wives who have experienced this kind of verbal abuse from their husbands to process their own feelings of hurt and anger. There is no need to bottle up these emotions or attempt to ignore them. Talking with a friend, family member, therapist, or support group can help wives confront their emotions in a healthy way.
When it comes to how to handle the situation going forward, setting boundaries is key. This means communicating your expectations for respectful language and behavior as well as making sure they are enforced. If your husband continues to call you fat or insults you in any way, let him know that this is unacceptable and not something that will be tolerated in your relationship.
It’s also important for both partners to be open about their needs and wants with each other. Talk openly about what it would take for you both to move forward in the relationship. This may include couples counseling or other forms of external support.
Finally, it’s essential to remember that this situation does not define you or your marriage. It can be incredibly difficult to cope with hurtful words and behavior from a spouse, but with open communication and an understanding of boundaries, couples can work towards healing together. By creating a safe space for both partners to share their feelings, many marriages have come out stronger on the other side.